There are many things I appreciate about my own parents. One thing that stands out to me is how much they supported my interests. You see parents imposing their own thoughts or expectations on kids. Whether it be sports, academics, music, art, or outdoor ventures. Often times your kids will naturally enjoy the same things you do. However, sometimes they have different talents and interests. My mom would never claim to be overly creative. However, I think she sells herself short. That said, what I have always appreciated is that she saw that it was an interest in me. She didn’t throw her hands up in the air and ignore my own talents. Instead, I remember the craft books she used to buy me. She would get me the supplies I needed and wanted. She would come up with activities she knew I would find fun. She would look for classes and opportunities for me to get involved in. My parents had a big task on their hand because I had a variety of pursuits, and they always seemed to support my ventures. I thought I would want to play an instrument, and they came alongside and let me try my hand at the piano, trumpet, trombone, clarinet and guitar before I realized I had no talent with instruments. When I decided voice was more my thing, they helped me pursue voice lessons, theatre opportunities and were always there at my performances or vocal competitions. They let me pursue sports, acting, music, academics, art, activities with friends and church, adventure and travel. Yes, that seems a little unfocused, but I have been glad to have all of these interests. It’s really my style. Other kids will be more focused on one pursuit. There is definitely a time for encouraging kids to follow through with commitments or pushing through the hump that does come in playing an instrument or doing a sport. However, you’ll need to really know and listen to your kids to know if you are imposing something you want more than what they want.
