I recently talked to a friend who is wanting to start “dump dates” with their kids. I thought it was an interesting concept, and I’d love your feedback on it. The idea is that it’s important your kids are not hiding things from you. This would be a time where they come out into the light about what is really going on in their lives. I see it as more applicable with older kids although there could be a version of this with younger kids as well. The rule is the parents aren’t allowed to comment for 24 hours. They are not allowed to freak out. They listen and give it some time to settle in so that it can be discussed in a thoughtful way. They thank the child for being honest and willing to share. We don’t want our kids hiding in the dark because of shame or a fear that you will be disappointed for them. Satan loves it when we live in the dark. He resides there, so that’s where he wants to pull your kids too. If you can have a prodigal son relationship with your child so they know they can always come to you with your arms open, then it becomes a safe place. Will there be discussion with decisions they’re facing or have already made? Probably…after the 24 hour waiting period is up. However, you want to be a person your children can came to and live in the light with. Through you they can experience the love and grace we have all been given in this life.
great idea – assuming they will talk…I have a pretty tight lipped 14 yo, willing to try this though!
Blessings