Too often, I feel like we’re trying to just put band aides on the situation we find ourselves in with our kids. Just stop it! Easy enough, right? We are dealing with all the symptoms of the problem rather than really focusing on the heart issue. When looking our our children’s issues, try to figure out the root. We could discipline them and deal with the behavior until we are blue in the face. Consequence given every time an infraction occurs. Easy enough, right? However, just constantly fighting the symptoms will get you no where. Let’s say your child is misbehaving in school. What’s really going on behind this behavior? Is there a heart of rebellion in their actions? Are they being picked on by other kids and this is their way to act out against it? Are they frustrated because they’re not grasping the work or because it all seems too easy and they are bored? Do they butt heads with this teacher for some reason that needs to be sorted through? Are you and your husband at odds at home? Have you moved a number of times and they are trying to find their place? Are they looking for any kind of attention and the negative attention seems to be working right now? The list could go on and on and on. Often times it’s a sin issue in their own life…things we all are battling against. Other times there are external pressures and influence that are poorly affecting their behavior. Getting to the root of it can help you face the problems head on rather than always just trying to change the surface behavior.
Day #225 – Figure out the Root of the Problem
August 12, 2012 by 5 Comments