I often ask my kids, “Is this going to hurt or help the relationship with your sister?” Whether it be trying to tattle tale or the way they’ve used their words or actions. If I see something that compromises their relationship, I ask them this simple phrase to get them back on track. It helps them evaluate the importance of that relationship. It helps them judge their own behavior. I have found it a lot more effective than, “Don’t take that from your sister!”
