Children begin to internalize the words they hear from you. They begin to believe things about themselves based on what people say about them. Therefore, never confuse their behavior with their worth. Please avoid saying statements like, “You are a bad boy.” It is much better to correct their behavior with specifics about their actions. “You are not telling me the truth. I need you to really work on honesty because you want people to be able to trust you,” is going to be better than saying, “You are a liar.” Behaviors can be modified, and although everyone is sinful, to label them with a specific attacks on their character will never benefit you or your child.
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I have had to correct a friend of our oldest once when he said to our youngest “no, no, bad girl” I quickly said, “she is not a bad girl, we don’t say that”. It is the behavior, the choices that are bad. You will often hear us saying “that was a bad choice, what would have been a better one?” It is the behavior that isn’t lovable not the kid.
There should not be an apostrophe in words. An apostrophe indicates ownership as in ” the word’s meaning. “
You’re totally right. I hadn’t noticed that. I actually downloaded this quote and image from Google images, so I can’t change it. Thanks for letting me know.
Carrie, you’ve said it so well. I’m glad you’re willing to lovingly teach all children – not just your own. So good.
So so so true! What a great reminder. Thanks for sharing at tip toe thru tuesday!
Thank you. I hope it helps people.
just wanted to let you know that this will be featured at tip-toe thru tuesday tomorrow
Thank you! I linked back on the post.