Becoming a mom, for me, has been a lot more challenging than I ever imagined. I am adventurous, independent and, quite honestly, selfish. To go from the one in the middle of the action to the one sitting on the sidelines nursing a baby…well, it was a hard transition. I remember talking to someone in tears after my first baby and saying, “I’m just not fun anymore.” Fun was something that defined me before kids. Having children has forced me to go through a re-birth of sorts. I have had to redefine myself in a way, and it has been quite a transition. I am learning to re-focus my fun into my parenting. I have really tried to make life with my kids more intentional, thus the blog. I felt like I was living in a funk of “I should really…” moments with my kids while I was also struggling in defining who I even was anymore. A wise, older friend said, “Don’t lose yourself.” Interesting, I kind of felt like I had to. It was good advice. I am still me. I am still adventurous and fun…a little less independent and a little less selfish (I would hope). However, I am still me. I am still pursuing my relationship with God. I still am passionate about my marriage and making my husband a priority. I am still seeking out fun and adventure. I am still finding ways to be creative. I am writing this blog. Yes, life has been redefined and much of my life is about my kids. However, for me personally, I have always had a Facebook profile picture that has me included in it so that I can remember that I haven’t lost myself. As moms, we can get so wrapped up in being a mom that it becomes an idol of sorts. It’s important to not lose the spirit of who God intended you to be and watch your own gifts manifest themselves in your parenting as well.
Day #146 Tip – Don’t Lose Yourself
May 25, 2012 by 4 Comments