· Keep a calm and relaxed demeanor when you are dealing with your children. I know how hard it is, and I sometimes don’t excel, but this is the aim. You will appear to have no emotional involvement with their behavior and not draw attention to the negative actions you see. If you keep your eye brows up, your face will not frown. It takes a great deal of patience, but if their behavior is not rewarded by your emotional engagement, they will become more bored with the process. Keeping your cool (or at least appearing too) will help neutralize their own behaviors or emotions.