Try not to impose consequences when you are angry. It is OK to tell your child that you need time to calm down or think about something before responding to your child. I remember not too long ago I set myself on the stairs and shut the door. The kids opened the door and asked, “What are you doing?” I responded, “I need to be on the stairs because I don’t have a happy heart.” Then, under my breath as they shut the door I said, “Check back in about a week.” It wasn’t a good day. You’re going to have those days. I never knew how incredibly frustrated I would become with my kids. Nothing like having children to bring out all the ugliness you were hoping wasn’t really there. It’s fine to tell children you are really angry and then remove yourself to gain control. It’s actually great modeling for them to deal with moments where they feel angry too. I tell my kids, it’s OK to feel angry, but it’s important to respond to that anger correctly. You’ll need to model exactly that. It is important to learn to apologize when you don’t handle the situation in the most ideal way.
Day #89 Tip – Give Yourself a Time Out
March 29, 2012 by 4 Comments